So how do we forgive a person who doesn’t ask or may not even know that he or she needs to be forgiven? What I remind myself is that the only thing that can free us from resentment is real forgiveness. No matter what was done (or not done), the sin — or my perception of it — probably does not do me nearly the harm that I do to myself by holding on to the resentment, dwelling on the bad acts, or feeling sorry for myself.
We must choose to forgive. While reading a recent devotion, the author said that “forgiveness is bearing the wrong or injury yourself and choosing to remember it no more.” Like Christ did for us, forgiveness means I need to unilaterally hand out a clean slate – and really mean it. The bottom line is that forgiveness is not trying to pretend that the sin never happened. It is not trying to forget. Forgetting comes after forgiveness, not before.
So as all of life’s little wrongs begin building to resentment, choose to forgive and hand a clean slate . . . and then truly forget.
— Cal Watson